I did it! 12 months!
Twelve months with only a couple of light trims and some shaping. I posted my inspiration pic when I started and my hair isn’t far off where I was hoping it would be. I tried to pick a look that was achievable, as we all know unrealistic goals can lead to us giving up.
I have enjoyed the ‘Hair Growing Journey’. It’s showed me that I can be dedicated to something long term and I can achieve something I really want and Ive learnt that perseverance is definitely key when it comes to growing your hair. I have always looked at men with long hair as having achieved something that I found hard to achieve myself. It might sound a bit out there or whacky but I now feel that I can achieve other things that I have always wanted because I know I am capable of patience and working towards goals.
For pretty much half of my hair growing journey I was suffering with my anxiety again. The thought of having to sit in a barber chair for 45minutes made me feel as if I’d be trapped and wouldn’t be able to leave. Whilst this, ironically, made it easier to grow my hair, it was something that I also wanted to change. The last 2-3 months I have reached some major milestones… I am feeling 95% better daily which is allowing me to enjoy my life again and, last week, I sat down for a haircut from Jay, one of the Barbers in my team. I enjoyed the haircut so much, I felt how I want my customers to feel when they leave my chair. I felt brand new, so I need to thank Jay and also my therapist Jo, Jen and my family for helping me get back to a great place. (Ok, so I went a bit off topic there but I felt like it was important to note it and I like to share my experiences with you.)
I have received countless messages throughout the last twelve months from people who are also wanting to grow their hair. I have taken these questions and answered them for you here so that hopefully they can answer other people’s questions.
What is the best first step to take when growing out my hair?
This question was asked loads of times and the best answer I can give is to make sure you have a goal in mind. From the start I knew my 12 month goal was for my hair to resemble a look Jason Momoa had a couple of years ago. A vital point to make on this answer is to make sure you pick an achievable goal. Look for somebody that has hair like yours i.e. texture, thickness, wavy, straight, curly. It is pointless setting a goal to grow your hair down to your arse and wanting it to be just like that in twelve months time. Grow it for twelve months then set yourself a new goal.
How often should I get a trim when growing out my hair? Will cutting my hair make it grow quicker?
This varies depending on thickness of hair, speed of growth, end goal, lifestyle, etc. I really look after my hair as it’s my job to make peoples hair look great so I feel like I am a walking advert for my business. I condition my hair a few times a week and I wash it most days. This is simply because I have fine hair so after I sleep on it, it literally looks like I have backcombed the shit out of it! I use a daily shampoo that doesn’t strip my hair of essential oils and doesn’t make my hair flyaway (weightless). I think I had about four or five trims throughout the last year. Mainly just to maintain some kind of shape in my hair without losing any length in vital areas, such as the nape of my neck, the fringe and around my ears. I wanted these areas to grow out the most as I feel these areas are important when it comes to having a longer hairstyle and making the hair feel longer. Cutting your hair won’t make it grow faster, it will help keep your hair healthy and retain shape but it definitely won’t make it grow any faster. As a general rule to my clients that are growing out their hair, I recommend them to visit me every 8-10 weeks so that I can keep their hair on track for their new look and to also give them advice on styling etc as their hair gets longer.
How can I keep my hair looking smart during the hair growing journey?
This can be vital advice, especially for people who work in a corporate or formal environment meaning they have to keep a smart appearance. For the first three to four months of growing out my hair, I was having a really low taper on my neck at the back and on my sideburns, this was definitely a key to me being able to grow my hair. When I have tried in the past to grow my hair longer, my neck and sideburns were the areas that make me feel scruffy and unkept. Keeping these areas neat for as long as possible not only kept me looking smart but they also made me feel fresh and not wanting to cut my hair short all over. This kind of style would work great in a corporate/formal work environment, as you can style your hair in a number of classic looks whilst having clean edges. Once you start to hit 3-4 months of growth, it’s a good idea to let the taper grow out and get a bit of length in the nape area and sideburns. I started to tuck my sides behind my ears which again, gave me a different look to work with that I really enjoyed.
What products are best to use in longer hair?
For me, ‘product’ has been an important part of growing out my hair. My hair is so soft after I’ve washed it so I like to add a product to it that gives it some weight and some light hold without it feeling weighed down or greasy. Cutthroatpete Texture is a styling spray in my range of products that is a perfect all round styling essential. It works perfectly in short/medium length hair as a styling product on it’s own, giving the hair that rough textured feeling that you typically feel after spending some time in the sea. In longer hair CTP Texture gives your hair that same beachy feel but also adds some weight to fine/soft hair and allows you to create a textured ‘just out of bed’ look. Cutthroatpete Texture is also great when used as a primary styling product meaning that you can dry some into your hair and then add some Cutthroatpete Klay or Paste afterwards for some extra definition and hold.
I have found Cutthroatpete Klay to be a really useful product during the latter few months. As soon as I jump out of the shower, I rub a baked bean size amount between my palms and spread it through my hair whilst it’s damp. When it dries in it creates a nice heavy grungy look to my hair without looking greasy. Cutthroatpete Klay is a matte finish product meaning it removes excess moisture from the hair and gives a cool, natural finish. Applying it to damp hair makes it easier to distribute from roots to ends.
Will long hair still be in fashion by the time I’ve grown out my hair?
Of course!! Long hair on men will always be in fashion just like the fade and the taper. Classic hairstyles never go out of fashion. The only haircuts that go out of fashion are the ones that are over worked. By “over worked” I mean those haircuts that generally look great for a photo but the client would not have a clue when it comes to replicating the look at home. I’d personally like to see more men having a go at growing out their hair.
I have been speaking to people via social media and my friends and family, hoping to gather enough opinions about what they think of my hair. Like always though, no matter what people tell me to do I will end up doing what I want to do anyway! I decided a couple of months ago that I really want to grow my hair proper long, like shoulder length long. So that’s what i’m going to do. I will approach this next 12 months slightly differently. I plan on getting my hair trimmed possibly every 10-12 weeks. I want to start getting a good shape cut into my hair and maintaining it as it grows. Again, my inspiration for the next stage of growing my hair is Jason Momoa. I know I don’t have those Hawaiian looks or his acting ability but if I can grow out my hair to that length i’ll be happy. I won’t be blogging monthly about my hair this year but if I come across any awkward stages or difficulties I will definitely get them into a blog post.
I hope by answering these most asked questions you can take some good advice from my answers if you are thinking about growing your hair.
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I’ve included some pictures of my hair length where it is at the moment.
Thanks so much to everyone that has encouraged me along the way during my hair growing journey, I hope you’ve enjoyed the posts. I’ve really enjoyed the challenge.
Poor Jen will have to deal with another twelve months of me asking her daily ‘has my hair grown?’
Have you read my other hair journey blogs? If not, you can find them here